10 Tips to Help Your Child
through Divorce
3. Listen quietly. Children have many questions, feelings, assumptions and concerns about divorce. Many parents find it difficult to just sit quietly and listen to their children talk without trying to interrupt with a "fix-it" statement to help them feel better. Children need to feel heard with quiet patience and undivided attention. 4. Let your child know however they respond to the divorce is O.K. Many children hide their feelings of sadness, grief, anger or confusion because they are afraid expressing these feelings will upset their parents. Children need to know all their feelings are acceptable.
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Rights of Children of Divorce
By Lois V. Nightingale, Ph.D
6. Express anger and sadness in their own way, according to age and personality (not have to give justification for their feelings or have to cope with trying to be talked out of their feelings by adults). 7. Not be messengers between parents; not to carry notes, legal papers, money or requests between parents. 8. Not make adult decisions, including where they will live, where and when they will be picked up or dropped off, or who is to blame.
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