When dealing with an enraged parent

Co-parenting is not a sum-zero game. In a sum-zero game, when one player gains a point, the opponent automatically looses a point, so the sum of the scores is always zero. Raising a child is not a competition. What one parent gains the other parent also gains if it is in the best interest of the child. If a parent is focused on the fear of being in a one- down position or "loosing" at this game, the best interest of the child can become easily lost. A better way to view the process to see the child as the potential winner when he or she understands that no matter what unexpected changes occur in life, love and acceptance are always available. This is the most reassuring life-long lesson a child can ever be taught. And there is no greater opportunity to give this gift than through the turmoil of divorce and change. Exploring how to make the child the winner places the focus off an adversarial position and refocused on the mutual goal of child rearing.