 How Long Need a Divorce Disrupt Our Lives? I would recommend that every
divorcing family go through some sort of program as the one described in
the P.A.C.T. article. However, until we are willing to do a lot of
internal emotional work to solve our own hurts and disappointments, to
forgive ourselves as well as our former spouses, to come to terms with
the altered circumstances of our lives, and to change the stories we
carry around in our heads about the other, we are not going to be able
to follow the eleventh commandment. Not only will we be unable to put
the children's needs first, we will not be able to embrace our own
singleness and see that there can be new possibilities and new
adventures in store for us.
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