 A Making Lemonade Tidbit "There are always flowers for those who want to see them." Everyone wears on their forehead a sign that says, 'Make me feel important.'
" Catch Them Being Good is one of the most easily used and effective methods
that parents can use with children. Learn this one method and suddenly you
will see a fabulous shift in how you get along with children, indeed, in all
of your relationships!
When parents catch their children being good, they feel appreciated instead
of criticized. The unconditional love that already exists between parent and
child is expressed. Children will reciprocate by catching their parents being
good, and the whole family dynamic has changed. Can it be that simple? Yes.
How does it work? Think about those things that you do competently, skills
you have that you are proud of. How did you learn to do these things? You
weren't born knowing how. You learned how. Someone, probably several people,
told you: "Correct. Good job. You figured that out. You did it!" Or, maybe a
teacher gave you a good grade, which confirmed that you understood and had
some degree of mastery.
Think of this example. Little Joey has the task of learning how to
tie his shoes. What would happen if every time he tried, and got it wrong,
his parents jumped up and down with excitement and said, "Hooray, Terrific!
I'm proud of you! Then handed him a lollipop. How long would it take before
Joey learned how to tie his shoes? I think that you get the point. The only
reason that you know how to do anything is that someone verified that you got
it right. Without this kind of a reality check, we don’t know when we are
successful.
Catch Them Being Good captures the very essence of how people learn.
If you believe that there are no mistakes, only lessons, you can guide your
children in the direction that you want them to go with this under used skill.
This technique is the most important steering mechanism that we have on the
road to encouraging a developing rational mind. It focuses on what is right,
reasonable and responsible. It amazing! It works! |