Letting Go of Divorce
You will no longer have this frustrating person under foot......
3. Whenever your divorcing person does something that
hurts or angers you, it can be quite helpful to compose
an imaginary Thank You note. Don't mail it, unless
perhaps to your coach, therapist, support group, or close confidant.
In effect, thank your divorcing person for reminding you by their behavior
of the advantages of getting the divorce, for reminding you
that what they just did or said is the kind of thing you won't
have to live with in the future.
4. Put your thank you notes in a folder entitled Advantages
and Privileges of Divorce. Every time you notice something
that fits, put it in the folder. Unless your spouse took
the only computer, transfer the contents into a document.
Keep the folder or document handy and take a "dose" of relief
every time you need it. Don't rush. Pause and acknowledge
the validity of each item. Let that sink in. Think of
specific ways it applies to your life.
5. Add to that folder any of the following that apply for you:
* You will no longer have this frustrating person under foot.
He or she hasn't been a blessing for a very long time, and as
some famous woman once said when questioned why she never
married, "It takes an awfully good husband [or wife] to be
better than none." Keep that one in mind when you start dating.
* You will no longer have a resident Critic pointing out a
host of reasons you should dislike yourself.
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