Single dads are a growing population looking for support and guidance. Balancing work and parenting is a challenge for most parents, and single fathers are an expanding population in the parenting world.
We are seeing a trend now for fathers to take a very active part in parenting their children; joint and full custody is an expanding population of men. The healthiest mix (whenever possible) is leading toward children having equal access to both of their parents, their grandparents and an extended family. I understand this is easier said than done in some situations.
An increasing percentage of fathers are now choosing to spend time with their kids and not at their desk away from home; they are seeing themselves more as CEO of the family.
Best For The Child. We hear so much about deadbeat dads that we forget there are fathers that totally there for their children, emotionally, financially and physically. I salute those dads.
This is an emotionally charged issue because solo parenting or joint custody are challenging no matter how you look at it. Juggling finances, time management, time for self, work and homework…I’m tired just remembering what it is like. The best thing we can do is think, always, what is best for the child. Not always easy but it is the most important.
Winning is not the goal. The goal is not spite, with-holding or who gets the last word in a conversation. Children need not be a casualty, which is the biggest challenge when a marriage or relationship changes and couples separate.
Deanie Kramer, a former Los Angeles mediator and a mediator on “Divorce Court TV”, agrees that more and more fathers are getting custody of their children because the courts are looking at what is in the best interest of the children. And if the father can provide the most secure, nurturing and consistent home life, the courts will grant him custody of the children, or at the very least an equal or larger percentage. Growing Population.
We need the help. So take this all in, and as the world changes – so does our family dynamics. It’s about calling in responsible parenthood — Fathers, Mothers, and Second Timers (grandparents raising grandchildren).
So let’s acknowledge it and continue to do what’s right for the children.