Dating: Is the dating grass always greener? We’ve all done it…like a kid in a candy store when it comes to greener dating grass. Post-divorce or break-up or just experimenting with the law of attraction — we sometimes over-fill our “dance cards’, especially when we have been out of the dating scenario for a while.
How many is TOO many..how much juggling can one do before they can find their own balance (like riding a bicycle)? Everyone is different, but the bottom line is everyone is hopefully looking for “the one”…
However, what about those who always contemplate the grass-is-always-greener mentality, what if one particular person is never enough. Those with a three-page checklist, always looking for a better, younger, richer, prettier, more handsome model.
When do you cry UNCLE and let someone really grow on and with you? Why do we change partners before the dance even ends? What happens if we let a relationship slowly bloom into something special without bringing our fears and hangups into the relationship. This is challenging to do at times, because of hurts and wounds that perhaps have not healed yet. We just have to move beyond and take note of where those wounds are. Whether it’s a tone of voice, a fear of the other person’s “secret life” (lack of trust), or just sense memories from the pain that go unexplained.
What is YOUR INTIMACY INDEX formula? In other words, take the age you are right now AND divide it by the average amount of time you’ve spent with someone else. A good gauge for availability perhaps? They say it takes the time in a relationship to go through the cycle of healing and a readiness for another go-around with a healthier you.
What do YOU think?