As we move into the arena of now parenting teenagers, parents know this is not an easy job. And it is not an easy transition for the child who is now learning how to claim their freedom while still needing YOU.
Your child is now learning to push the boundaries and begins acting differently, more concerned about how other kids see them, more temper, more time with the bedroom door closed…
We have to let go on deeper levels to get our teenager some life experience, and keep our sanity through the bouts of hormones, trying to get away with things, playing both parents, experimenting with who-knows-what…you catch my drift.
And it’s now time to make some new ground rules and get to a point that we can let go more, and allow our teenager some life experience and a new sense of freedom.
Please know that they WILL fight for their freedom if you do not allow them to claim it. Teens will ask for help in one breath and run from you the very same day.
What more can we say?
It’s push and shove… come and go… “you don’t know anything”… “you’re stupid”,…you never”,…, “you always”…we must learn NOT to take all this personally. They are merely discovering their personal power and experimenting with boundaries, rules and
Then, there are those potent fights that reduce US to teenager status ourselves. Many confusing conversations with not too much clarity. And, of course, from their vantage point, there are too many new rules, not enough tools and a “You’re not the boss of me” attitude.
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