We are a Single Parent Network. Ask a room full of single moms if they’ve ever felt the same way as you do right now and all the hands in the room will shoot up. I have a few ideas for you to establish your own network of other single parents and also get yourself grounded in this new life you are creating for you, and your child/ren.
Keep an “emotions” journal. Get those feelings, anger and just plain emotions out of your body and onto paper. This way you can see what is really at the root of your anger — maybe fear or exhaustion. By writing it down and getting it out of your body it also makes room for some joy and love for your children to come in.
Also, are there any other single moms in your community — church, school, or synagogue — that you can perhaps meet with once a week or month? In other words, create a single parent support group where you can share your experience, strength, and hope with other single moms. You can also find other single moms and create a childcare co-op.
Plan playdates with other single moms who have children around the same age as yours. This way you get some time off. I used to take turns with another mom to have sleep-overs, so we each had some time out to go to a movie, have dinner with friends or even go on a date.
- Let go of feelings – like anger, resentment, fear, and of course – doubt.
- Get your feelings on paper, and find support with other single moms.
- Find some women who want to exchange babysitting or childcare with you, so you can experience some ME time. And don’t forget to breathe!